ADHD OASIS Community Meetup: How to Recognize and Shut Down Gaslighting

June 6, 2023 12:00 am PDT

About This Event

Join us on Tuesday, June 6th for New Tech’s ADHD OASIS Community Meetup on How to Recognize and Shut Down Gaslighting

Adults with ADHD are more likely to be gaslit. Gaslighting is intentional manipulation to gain control. In this meetup we will discuss how to recognize this manipulation and shut it down.

Join us for New Tech Northwest’s ADHD OASIS community meetup. This virtual event will combine community and coaching to support you in building supportive systems for managing your neurodiverse brain. Discover how to decrease your neurodiverse challenges while building relationships with fellow ADHDers and neurodiverse peers who are on similar journeys.

You can attend these virtual Meetups on the first and third Tuesdays of every month. The more Meetups you attend, the more peer connections you’ll make with other professionals who have neurodiverse brains like you. Instead of being lonely in your experience, come laugh, learn, and connect with your community.

During the Meetups we’ll share struggles as well as systems and strategies to overcome your executive functioning and working memory challenges like anxiety, overwhelm, miscommunication, interrupting, inattentiveness, stress, distractibility, procrastination, paperwork fails, imposter syndrome, having to mask your neurodiversity at work, and weak organization skills. Welcome!

Come join our ADHD OASIS LinkedIn community , ADHD OASIS Discord channel, and RSVP for our next virtual meetup to have a community of peers where you can safely discuss your  neurodiverse experiences with a supportive community of peers twice a month.

One in five adults are neurodiverse and one in twenty have ADHD. In the tech industry these numbers are even higher.

Unfortunately, most business cultures are not very neurodiverse-friendly because neurotypical folks have not been educated on what it’s like to live with our faster than normal brains, rejection sensitive dysphoria, low executive function, low working memory, low dopamine, and low serotonin.

If you ask most people what pops into their mind when they hear “ADHD” it’s usually a version of a white elementary school boy running in circles in a classroom. If you ask them what they know about Attention Deficit Disorder (now known as ‘inattentive ADHD’) it’s probably some version of being distracted (i.e. “squirrel”) and that’s it. If you ask them about autism they probably know little beyond that there’s a spectrum and some social awkwardness. They probably don’t realize that most neurodiverse folks have very high intelligence and creativity.

In these Meetups we’ll explore how you can better explain neurodiversity to others to bridge this education gap.

Maybe you’re undiagnosed, but experience ADHD symptoms. While there is no replacement for a professional diagnosis from a licensed expert, if any of this feels familiar, you can take this test to assess whether you might have ADHD.

Join us via zoom twice monthly to be welcomed into a community that gets you and lives with similar neurodiverse brains and stay connected in between meetups by joining out LinkedIn ADHD Oasis Community group. 

During the Meetups we’ll share struggles as well as systems and strategies to overcome your executive functioning and working memory challenges like anxiety, overwhelm, miscommunication, interrupting, inattentiveness, stress, distractibility, procrastination, paperwork fails, imposter syndrome, having to mask your neurodiversity at work, and weak organization skills.

Why is New Tech Building This Community?

Because a large percentage of our New Tech community members are living with ADHD and neurodiversity, we’ve partnered with our Founder Brett Greene’s coaching company, Epsilon Coaching, to offer bi-weekly virtual Meetups to build community together.

In the last year Brett has had conversations with almost 200 ADHDers and almost all of them ended with the person saying “I’ve never had a conversation like this and I have no one to talk to.” Well, now you do.

Now you can create community by attending as many of these bi-weekly events as you like whenever you like. These conversations have been invaluable for Brett, members of his ADHD groups, and the ADHDers he’s spoken with so we’re grateful to build community together in service to our mental health and our relationships (personal and professional).

Brett is a transformational Executive Coach who has ADHD, a Masters degree in Counseling Psychology, and over 15 years experience coaching hundreds of tech professionals. He offers individual coaching for professionals managing ADHD, and professional trainings for leaders and teams to better understand and support their neurodiverse team members. You can schedule a powerful two hour complimentary coaching session to learn more.

May 4th Hot Topic – How to Recognize and Shut Down Gaslighting

The Community

Professionals in technology who are managing ADHD, ADD, autism, dyslexia, depression, anxiety, or other neurodivergent conditions.

The Agenda
*You are welcome to show up late or leave early to suit your schedule. We understand that this is a workday event and unexpected priorities arise. We’re neurodiverse and understand these realities. 🙂
12:00pm – Welcome!
12:05pm – Community discussion of today’s main neurodiverse topic
12:20pm – Breakout into small groups to discuss the topic further and meet some new friends
12:45pm – Return to the main Zoom room to share stories and learnings from your breakout group experience
1:00pm – Closing and farewell until the next Meetup in two weeks
The Vibe

Supportive community of neurodiverse folks who see, understand, and support the ups and downs of your neurodiverse journey. You’ll laugh, smile, and exhale the stresses around living in a neuerotypically-designed world and work places. Come share what you’re up to, be curious and helpful to others, and make some new friends in the tech community!

The Experience

Receive community support and professional coaching as you talk safely with fellow ADHDers and neurodiverse peers about your challenges and solutions around neurodiverse living & working as a professional. Get love, understanding, tools for support, and meet new friends in a fun and safe space. We have fun too. 🙂

Pre-Meetup Reading

What is gaslighting at work? 6 signs of gaslighting and how to deal

The Gaslighting Risk: Why Adults with ADHD Are Particularly Vulnerable to Manipulation

What Group Coaching and Community Has Been Like for Some Members:

“Coaching with Brett Greene has been an important part of my journey towards accepting and managing my ADHD diagnosis. Being a part of a group of other professionals who are also affected by ADHD has been not only cathartic but has also made me more comfortable with sharing my diagnosis and my experiences with others. Brett has done a wonderful job of managing the group, striking the right balance between providing structure and topics to the coaching sessions, while allowing the group to share their experiences and strategies and ultimately dictate the flow of the sessions.”

– Niki Yoshiuchi, Lead MTS, Salesforce


“Coaching with Brett Greene has been eye-opening and invaluable. It has helped me to think about my neurodiversity as an asset rather than a weakness. I’ve enjoyed being in a group of other professionals with ADHD to learn from other people’s experiences. In our sessions I’ve gotten help for everything from planning to public speaking and career direction. I’ve also developed healthy new daily habits, such as leaving my phone in another room while working for at least a couple hours every day. I always have positive warm feelings following our sessions. Our coaching conversations consistently end with a sense of energy and optimism that’s missing during my day-to-day work week. It’s been incredible to go over career planning, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, ADHD, leadership development, relationship building, and public speaking in ways that connect all of these dots together. I’ve never come close to doing anything this personally and professionally powerful before.

– TH, Amazon


“I didn’t find out that I had ADHD until I was 51. Getting that diagnosis put a lot of things in perspective for me as someone who has been starting SAAS companies for 20 years. There’s a reason why I’m attracted to entrepreneurship. First, it taps into a lot of the things I’m good at around problem solving and getting a healthy dose of new challenges. Second, I probably wasn’t a terrific employee. My undiagnosed ADHD made it hard for me to be good at taking on complex projects, staying organized, and meeting deadlines. Unfortunately, working for myself didn’t make me good at that stuff, it just meant that I couldn’t get fired. Brett has really helped me to level up as an entrepreneur. Together, we’ve been ramping up my executive function skills so that I can delegate better, get big projects done more efficiently, and spend more time leveraging my ADHD superpowers. I’m having more fun than I’ve ever had and becoming the entrepreneur I’ve always wanted to be.”
RG, serial SaaS founder & CRO




Brett Greene, Founder, New Tech Northwest and Executive Coach For Tech Professionals Managing ADHD

Brett Greene is a transformational executive coach & community builder who helps tech leaders and professionals with ADHD to live their most fiercely powerful lives. Brett has ADHD, holds an MA in Counseling Psychology and has coached, mentored and advised hundreds of leaders. Some of his clients’ companies were acquired after being coached by Brett, including a Fortune 50 acquisition. He is the Founder/CEO of the New Tech Northwest community of 60,000+ technologists where his members and clients include startups to Fortune 10 companies. He is a life long meditator who has produced hundreds of event experiences, worked with multi-platinum bands, been a professional DJ, been a Top 35 Social Media Power Influencer in Forbes, and spoken at the White House. His greatest passion is helping people with ADHD to powerfully live their most fulfilled lives.